Stephen’s Heart Note 5.2.19
Praying for peace and strength on our communities as these violent storms pass over our fair land this week. Please give us a sound-off to know that you and your family are safe.
Hope everyone is healthy! A yucky little bug hit us this past Monday and we are carefully getting back to full strength in Durant, America. I do miss seeing everyone’s faces and enjoying good fellowship over work and food. It did take me a couple weeks longer than I anticipated to fully re-engage from the Uganda mission trip at the end of March/first of April 2019. This life on earth is extremely fleeting as you all well know, and the choices we make daily really do “echo in eternity(Gladiator).”
My hope is that we are all working diligently to begin each day from scratch and walking in forgiveness so our souls are in full alignment with the Spirit that created ALL LIFE. The second step to avoid complacency will be helpful and painful depending on the type of people we walk with everyday.
[Here are five steps to avoid complacency once you’ve achieved your dream goal.]
Start every day from scratch. Sustainable excellence is about getting better every day. …
Surround yourself with people who will tell you like it is. …
Focus on process instead of outcome. …
Continuously learn and adapt. …
Recharge the batteries.
- Surround yourself with people who will tell you like it is.
Successful people attract followers who want to be associated with success but aren’t willing to pay the price to achieve it themselves. Their fawning attention feels flattering, but it carries a big price. Because they’re motivated to stay in someone else’s limelight, these adulators will not risk (or are not capable of) giving honest feedback. They fear that by telling the truth, they will be replaced in the success circle. This has been the downfall of many successful individuals, teams and organizations.
Proverbs 27:6 The Passion Translation (TPT)
You can trust a friend who wounds you with his honesty,[a]
but your enemy’s pretended flattery[b] comes from insincerity.
Proverbs 27:6 Or “Wounds by a loved one are long lasting [effective and faithful].”
Proverbs 27:6 Or “kisses.”
Currently, the biggest mountain we all face in communication is the ability to give honest feedback in a safe environment/conversation. There is way too much assumption in any relationship-home, work, church, etc-that the other person “knows” what we meant after speaking our mind in a moment of frustration, exasperation, or even anger. It is important to speak the truth in love, for everyone on the planet will perceive it in a different lens. I have located a straightforward list from TIME magazine online that gives 6 ways to become a better communicator. Please check it out when able and give me your feedback via text, email, or face-to-face. http://time.com/2917206/communication-tips/
Little more direct food for thought from the Apostle Paul in his letter to the Ephesians:
Ephesians 4:14-16 English Standard Version (ESV)
14 so that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. 15 Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ,16 from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.
Held together by HIS unfailing love and faithfulness,
Stephen P. Shain
P.S. Please note the attachment from VitalSmarts Research. Build a strong foundation for good communication everyday!